Mental health awareness month? It should always be mental health awareness month. I can’t stress that enough. What’s life without mental hygiene? It’s lonely. It’s sad. It’s depressed. Its anxious. It’s confusing. It’s overwhelming. It feels like there is no escape and things will never get better.
I’ve been there. Many times. I didn’t take care of my mental health for a long time. I felt myself gliding through life. Not living it. I settled for less than I deserved and was “content” with what I had. I lived everyday not caring about what happens next. I was constantly anxious and worried about what everyone thought of me. I was insecure and couldn’t hold a relationship with anyone. Family, friends, boyfriends. I felt weird going out in public. I’d back out of opportunities because I was.. scared. I can’t tell you how many opportunities I’ve missed due to my unhealthy mental health. I ate like crap and didn’t take care of my body. I didn’t care who was walking out of my life. It was a downwards spiral that I didn’t even know I was on. I wasn’t happy but I was content.
Are you ok with being content? I know I’d rather be happy. Life’s hard for sure. There are curveballs thrown at us each and every single day of lives. Just because there are curveballs, doesn’t mean we have to stop living. You see, when you take care of your mental health and that big ol’ brain of yours, life doesn’t get easier. But it does get easier to deal with. It’s ok not to be ok sometimes. But how long will you sit in your shit?
Taking care of your psychological well-being looks different on everyone and some need it more than others. Some people just naturally are happy and carefree. Others need more work. Some people feel better just by spending the day driving around listening to music. Others might need some form of therapy to get by to gather tools and resources to help. Some need to be medicated. Everyone’s story is different and require different methods. My coping skills are different than yours and there is no “set of tools” better than any other “set of tools.”
For me, I speak to my therapist weekly. I also use music, my support group (friends and family), scents and candles, lemon water and the outdoors. That is how I take care of my mental health. If you’re reading this and feel like you resonate with just a little bit of what I’m saying, make a list of all the things that relax you. Make a list of all the things you are grateful for. You’re not alone. If you need help, ask for it.
There is always a way out. You just have to get over the initial hump of asking for help.