How many people do you think we meet in our lifetime? I guess it really depends on how introverted or extroverted you are. The truth is, we come into contact with so many people on a daily basis! Think about it… people you work with, people you dont work with but are in the same building, people at Starbucks, the gym, grocery store, etc. Do you talk to these people? If so, what’s the quality of conversation? Are you standoffish or do you dive right in? For me, it all depends. On my mood- that is. Everything depends on my mood, just ask my best friends.
These people we meet. Most are temporary. Many of these people will not be in our lives forever. That is okay. I promise. It gets better.
I used to be the person to get totally bent out of shape when someone walked out of my life or I walked out of theirs. Instead of appreciating what we had offered each other during our time in each other’s lives, I dwelled on “what if’s.”
As I’m growing, maturing and learning more about myself, I’m understanding every relationship is a gift. No relationship is perfect. Friends, family, significant others, etc. And like I said, most wont last forever.
What I have learned to do, is learn something from (most) people I come into contact with and appreciate what I have, when I have it.
For instance, I dated this guy over the winter. He was so amazing, dreamy, mature… BLAH BLAH BLAH. His
flaw, workaholic. Totally obsessed with making money that he felt the need to have to choose between a relationship or his job. He chose the job, of course. I took a little from him. Work life balance.
Another example, my (x) boyfriend and I recently broke up. We had a connection from the minute we locked eyes. Something I have NEVER experienced before. Fairytale feelings. The kind where people would think we were crazy if we told them how we really felt about each other. It didnt last very long because of our own issues, but that’s not the point. This man… pushed me to do something I’ve wanted to do for years. He didn’t literally push me or force me to do anything. He gave me motivation to do it. I suffer from extreme anxiety and get lost in my own head way too much. I have been wanting to get help and go to therapy for years but always made excuses. The biggest being I don’t have time. Guess what I did, I made time and stopped making excuses. I will forever love him for giving me the gift of self love and self preservation. I took a
little lot from him.
I had a boss. I’ve had a lot of bosses 🤣 Anyway, I had a boss at the bank that was totally the best. He was an inspiration to everyone. Everyone wanted to be his friend, employee or mentee and we all look up to him. He taught us so much about being a team and always doing the right thing. Mr.Boss picked up and transferred to his dream state. California. I learned to take care of yourself first and dont let anything hold you back. I took a
little lot from him.
I guess I should have titled this “Take A Lot” but that would sound greedy. Take and learn as much as you can from the people around you. Self care is not selfish. If anything, its selfLESS because you cant pour from an empty glass.
It’s easy to get twisted up about losing someone special to you, but if you change the negative to a positive and appreciate the good they presented you with, you’ll find yourself healing a lot quicker.
“I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.” -Marla Gibbs