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Maintain Your Growth

You’ve come so far. But what goes up must come down… right ? Wrong.

How many times have you talked yourself out of an anxiety attack? How many fights have you avoided by picking and choosing your battles? You’re saving money. You are happy. Things are going great and your life is on the up and up.

Right now, in a mental space, I’m floating on cloud 9. Noone can take me down. I’m taking my vitamins and eating healthy. Im actively in therapy to continue to maintain my mental health. My relationships are healthy (for the most part) and work is …. amazing. Things are great.

But… What happens when someone or something pushes me too far ? What happens when something goes wrong ? Its inevitable. What goes up must come down… right?

That rule doesn’t apply to me anymore. And it shouldn’t apply to you either. You choose your own happiness and noone can do it for you.

When things are going great, it’s easy to have a positive outlook on life. When things are going not so great, it’s even easier to have a negative outlook on life. Simple math.

What if I told you there is a way to maintain a positive, optimistic attitude no matter to situation or life phase.

WARNING: THIS IS NOT EASY.

When I wake up in the morning, I talk myself into having a good day. Snuggle with my pups and my daughter. Listen to some music, have a cup of coffee or tea, have a glass of water. Sing and dance a bit. Pump it up. Get the blood flowing.

Next thing I know, it’s time to get going for the day. The race is on. But I can still keep that same energy that I created when I woke up. I find that I have to constantly remind myself to stay positive or to “keep up the good work.” And I must say… there is nothing wrong with reminding yourself.

Awareness is everything. Awareness and acceptance. The two “A” words I always cringed at. What does awareness even mean? Awareness is education. Awareness is being informed. Awareness is being present. Awareness is knowledge. And acceptance. Oh, Acceptance. This is such a powerful word. Acceptance is being content. Acceptance is agreeing with what is. Acceptance is loving for who and what you are. Acceptance is the first step.

The next time you feel like you’re getting into a negative mood or feel like you may want to put someones head through the wall. Remember these two words. Awareness and acceptance.

I’d love to hear from you about what helps you maintain a healthy mental mindset. Send me a message or comment with your thoughts!

XOXO sam.

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Girl, Slow Down.

I’m the type of person that always needs to learn something or take something away from negative and positive things that happen to me. It’s my nature. Sometimes it just clicks and I get it right away. Other times it takes a little time. This particular incident took me a few months to learn from.

Back in November I was involved in some scary stuff. I’m going to spare the details for now but I will say, it was 100% not my fault and I got messed up pretty bad.

I remember thinking to myself, “Why did this happen to me? What did I do to deserve this? I’m getting some bad karma right now.” That was the mindset I had. Instead of just taking away something from it, I had the “Everything happens for a reason” motto stuck in my head. I felt that I did something terrible and was being punished for it.

Our brains go to what we know. It’s who we are.

It took a lot of therapy and thinking outside the box to figure this one out. What I learned from this actually has nothing to do with the incident itself.

What I learned has everything to do with my physical health, mental health and relationships. I learned who is there for me through thick and thin. I learned that it is SO important to take care of your body. Feed it right, move it right and don’t take it for granted. I learned that money isn’t everything. But most of all I learned to slow the heck down. Life is not a race. Time doesn’t really matter. What you make of your time is what matters.

Life is not a race? Yeah, OK, try telling that to every single Long Islander in rush hour traffic. Well, getting to work on time is important. If it’s so important, get up earlier. Plan better. ( I know I have to plan better ) What I mean by “slow down, life is not a race” is exactly what I said. For example, when this first happened, all I could think about was getting back to work and moving on with my life. I suffered from some pretty extensive injuries from this and it wasn’t as easy as “getting back to work and moving on with my life.” I had to put what really didn’t matter aside and put my health first. For once in my life, I had to put myself first.

I now find myself driving slower, taking my time when doing things and not being in a rush to get life out of the way. We should not be in a rush to get life out of the way. 

It took me a while to learn this and get used to putting myself first. At first I felt lazy for knowing my limits. I found myself comparing myself to other moms and my friends. I often found myself getting depressed over not being able to go to NYC during Christmas. Or not being able to go Christmas shopping. I literally ordered all my Christmas gifts from Amazon this year. NO JOKE! I was stuck in a funk. But none of those things mattered. I was taking care of myself. And from this day on, I will continue to do so.

Please, don’t take your life for granted. As a human race, overall, we take advantage of the simple things. We can change the way we think and become more appreciative of the little things in life. It starts with you!

 

XOXO Samantha Erica

 

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Take A Little.

How many people do you think we meet in our lifetime? I guess it really depends on how introverted or extroverted you are. The truth is, we come into contact with so many people on a daily basis! Think about it… people you work with, people you dont work with but are in the same building, people at Starbucks, the gym, grocery store, etc. Do you talk to these people? If so, what’s the quality of conversation? Are you standoffish or do you dive right in? For me, it all depends. On my mood- that is. Everything depends on my mood, just ask my best friends.

These people we meet. Most are temporary. Many of these people will not be in our lives forever. That is okay. I promise. It gets better.

I used to be the person to get totally bent out of shape when someone walked out of my life or I walked out of theirs. Instead of appreciating what we had offered each other during our time in each other’s lives, I dwelled on “what if’s.”

As I’m growing, maturing and learning more about myself, I’m understanding every relationship is a gift. No relationship is perfect. Friends, family, significant others, etc. And like I said, most wont last forever.

What I have learned to do, is learn something from (most) people I come into contact with and appreciate what I have, when I have it.

For instance, I dated this guy over the winter. He was so amazing, dreamy, mature… BLAH BLAH BLAH. His flaw, workaholic. Totally obsessed with making money that he felt the need to have to choose between a relationship or his job. He chose the job, of course. I took a little from him. Work life balance.

Another example, my (x) boyfriend and I recently broke up. We had a connection from the minute we locked eyes. Something I have NEVER experienced before. Fairytale feelings. The kind where people would think we were crazy if we told them how we really felt about each other. It didnt last very long because of our own issues, but that’s not the point. This man… pushed me to do something I’ve wanted to do for years. He didn’t literally push me or force me to do anything. He gave me motivation to do it. I suffer from extreme anxiety and get lost in my own head way too much. I have been wanting to get help and go to therapy for years but always made excuses. The biggest being I don’t have time. Guess what I did, I made time and stopped making excuses. I will forever love him for giving me the gift of self love and self preservation. I took a little lot from him.

I had a boss. I’ve had a lot of bosses ūü§£ Anyway, I had a boss at the bank that was totally the best. He was an inspiration to everyone. Everyone wanted to be his friend, employee or mentee and we all look up to him. He taught us so much about being a team and always doing the right thing. Mr.Boss picked up and transferred to his dream state. California. I learned to take care of yourself first and dont let anything hold you back. I took a little lot from him.

I guess I should have titled this “Take A Lot” but that would sound greedy. Take and learn as much as you can from the people around you. Self care is not selfish. If anything, its selfLESS because you cant pour from an empty glass.

It’s easy to get twisted up about losing someone special to you, but if you change the negative to a positive and appreciate the good they presented you with, you’ll find yourself healing a lot quicker.

I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.” -Marla Gibbs

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Get to know yourself.

Let’s call it, soul searching. Over the past month or so I’ve been doing a lot of communicating and digging deep into myself and learning TONS of things about myself that I never knew. I’m learning why I do the things I do, why I say the things I say, why I have no normal relationships, why I stir up the pot and how I became so down on myself over the years.

See, we dont become who we are over night. We are taught, in some way or another. Until we self discover, were just going to keep living the way we have always lived. Sometimes, it takes a big loss or tragic event to take place before we make a change. And then sometimes, we make changes to prevent a big loss or tragic event.

First things first, you must recognize that there is a problem that needs to be fixed. You must recognize that there is a problem that needs to be fixed. That’s powerful. When you’re set in your ways for years and years and years, it’s hard AF to admit there’s a problem or to even SEE there’s a problem. Many people may have told you your whole life you have an attitude or you’re so negative all the time but until YOU see it, nothing will change.

When I say I’ve been doing soul searching, I’m referring to therapy. As a teen and young adult, I’ve been to a handful of therapists and counselors for different reasons. What I can say about the past times I went is I was not ready for change. If I was ready for change back there, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I am a firm believe that everything happens for a reason. So, if I would have been ready back then I may not have all that I have now. I may not have had Christina or met my amazing boyfriend. I might not be close to my family or have the job I have.

Now… I’m ready. My reasons for being ready may be different than yours. All I know is it has been, top 5, one of the best decision of my life. I’ve learned so much about myself the past month and will continue to put work in. I will continue to practice being calm, cool and collective (this part is hard for me for many reasons, but I have hope) I will continue to stop and breathe when I feel like stirring the pot. And the most important, I will continue to keep my eyes open, stay present and love with my arms and heart wide open. This is NOT easy, I will never tell you it is. The past month has been the most uncomfortable time of my life. Simply because its brand new grounds for me. But each day, I rest my head feeling a little more satisfied and at peace with myself.

Make changes, Keep calm and live in the moment. Love you all, Samantha

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Breaking up with yourself.

Dear you,

It’s not you, its me. I think we should see other people. As I grow, and you don’t, we just aren’t right for eachother anymore. I can’t have you sitting in my head all day telling me things that don’t exist or trying to make me believe things that will never happen. You creep up on me when I least expect it and when I’m feeling really good. You ruin everything.

You’re ugly.

You’re fat.¬†

You’re worthless.

The world would be better off without you. 

You’re not the only girl he’s dating.¬†

He’s cheating on you.

He’s lying.¬†

They don’t like you.

You’ll never succeed.¬†

Your family doesn’t like you.

You’re a bad mom.¬†

Most mornings, I wake up with a knot in my stomach because of you. Sometimes, I don’t even know why. But in the back of my head, I know, it’s because of you. It takes me longer to get out of bed and you leave me feeling less motivated and quite frankly, exhausted after you’ve played your part and left me high and dry.

I can’t describe the way you make me feel. But I do know you’re toxic. You’re toxic to me. Toxic to my daughter, family, friends, career, strangers, boyfriend.

When I block your number, you just keep coming back. I move to a new home and you seem to locate me everytime.

Today, I put my foot down. Enough is enough. I’m sick of feeling guilty and regretful after every episode or attack. I’m sick of putting myself down, after you put me down for hours on end and then leaving without a trace. I’m sick of missing out on things, passing up opportunities, ditching friends, avoiding family and fighting with loved ones. Enough is enough.

I promise it’s not you, it’s me. I’ve outgrown you.

Anxiety, Please leave me alone or I’ll get you on harassment charges.

From, not love, Samantha.



So, I’m here to promote and spread positivity. To be a motivational platform for more than just people I “know.” What does writing to my inner voice have to do with positivity? I’m showing you that it’s okay to not be¬†perfect all the time. But… it’s even better to break up with the toxicity of your own head. You don’t have to deal with anything you don’t want to. It’s okay to have bad days but don’t let those bad days turn into bad weeks and bad months. Shake it off and break it off. How long are you going to sit in your own shit ? How long …

Gouda night. I love cheese and I love you all !

LOVE, Samantha

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Staying Present.

How many times have you heard someone tell you to stay in the moment and be present? I know I’ve heard my mother say this to me so much throughout the past few years. It always sounds SO much easier than it really is. What does that even mean? Of course I’m present. I’m here aren’t I?

Wrong.

My body is here. But my head is there. I’m looking at you and hearing you but I’m not listening. I’m scrolling through social media, I’m thinking about the bills that need to be paid or how much I don’t want to go to work on Monday (when its’s only Friday) Why am I thinking about Monday when it’s only Friday? **insert thinking emoji here**

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Lately, I’ve been trying to be more¬†present.¬†It’s hard, don’t get me wrong, but I do find myself enjoying my time a LOT more than I have in the past. I’m a better mom, daughter, girlfriend, friend and worker. I’m happier. I deleted social media apps from my phone so its not as convenient for me to get into, I disabled notifications on my phone except for important things such as texts, phone calls and updates on my daughters school and I fight my brain every single moment of every single day to push away all the “other” feelings, emotions and thoughts. Easy? No.

Simplifying my life has helped me become more present because I don’t have all these¬†things preventing me from living my best moment. This the best way I can describe how I do it. I’m also only at the beginning stages of simplifying my life, so as I develop more thoughts and best practices, you KNOW I’ll be sharing !!

Nothing bothers me more than having an important conversation with someone and they pick up their phone and start scrolling through Instagram or answer a text. That can wait. This isn’t being selfish, its being present and enjoying the moment. It’s also showing the other person you care about what they have to say and what they are talking about is important.¬† How about after being intimate with a loved one and them rolling over and checking their phone RIGHT AFTER? Hello.. cuddle me please. ENJOY THE MOMENT.

I can’t stress it enough how hard it really is to do everything I just said, especially if you have an addictive personality or an anxious mind. But I promise you, the more you work at it and the more you simplify, the easier it gets to enjoy and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!

Some things I’ve been doing to help simplify are

  • Meal prepping
  • Wearing the same clothes (washing them of course,) so I don’t have to think about what I wear
  • Deleting apps/disable notifications
  • THROW THINGS AWAY/DONATE
  • Not keeping my phone next to me at all time
  • Being more social ( to help practice being in the moment)
  • MEDITATE, MEDITATE, MEDITATE ( I just go on Youtube for guided meditation before bed) I’ll post some links below.

There’s no better feeling than talking to someone and having nothing else on your mind. That’s the goal.¬† We’re only human, it’s not going to be perfect… ever. But the more we work toward living our best life, the happier we will be.

 

Happy Humpday !!

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XOXO SAMANTHA

 

 

**I do not own rights to these Youtube channels, just throwing them out there for your use**

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCX159cvbQYBvMFvpdsbIDdA

 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqPYhcdFgrlUXiGmPRAej1w

 

https://www.youtube.com/user/MichaelSealey

 

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My Happy Place

Months ago, I wrote about my happy place. The actual place. Argyle Lake.¬†¬†¬†There are so many other “happy places” other than an actual place. You can find your happy place in a person, a song or your career. You can find it in reading, writing or your even your dog. Sometimes, we find happiness in the bottom of the bottle or self destructive activities but we’ll save that post for another time. Tonight is all about positivity and straight up LOVE.

When you find your happy place in a person, you’ll know they are the one. You will feel at home. You won’t have any sadness, even through the stress. You won’t feel the need to cope with your problems the way you used to because that person is your crutch. They lift you up when you are down and ALWAYS make sure you are okay. You may know this person your whole life or you may have only met them a few weeks ago. No matter how long, you’ll know. You’ll always know.¬†

I never believed in finding happiness through a person. I always felt it had to come from within. Yes, this is true. You need to love yourself before you can love someone else. BUT, there is nothing wrong with having a person to influence you to love yourself and find your happiness. That person may even be your happy place. 

Find someone that supports you. Not financially – but emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Find someone that encourages your growth and well being. Find someone that makes you feel like you can accomplish anything with or without them. Find someone that knows your worth just as much as you do. Find that person you want to kiss good-night and good-morning every single day.

Now, obviously there is inspiration behind this post but don’t you dare think for a second that your person HAS to be a lover. This person can be just a friend, too. I’ve found a lot of happiness in¬†friendships¬†and family members.

Like I said, Find someone that supports you and encourages positivity. Someone that knows your worth.  If its a family member or a friend, you may want to steer away from the kissing goodnight and good morning. **This is where you laugh**

Just when you think life is amazing, a curveball is thrown at you and makes life even MORE amazing. Don’t ever give up finding your happy placeperson ( One word, Can I make that a word ?)¬† You don’t always have to actively look and work for it ; Just live your life and it will find you.¬†

 

Short post tonight. I promise – I’ll slowly get back into this. I love you all dearly.¬†‚ô•‚ô•‚ô• Samantha Erica Theresa Anderson¬†

 

 

 

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I Want More

When I first signed up for the Career Development Center with my job, it wasn’t a surprise that I am an extrovert. I could talk and talk and talk and talk and talk.. when I’m comfortable. Now, if I’m just getting to know someone, I want to talk and talk and talk and talk but something inside me says “Don’t do it, you’ll scare them away! I probably would scare them away.

I tend to get too deep, too fast. I don’t like small talk. I don’t (just) want to know how your day was or your plans for the next few months. I want to know what keeps you up at night. I want to know your childhood nicknames and what makes you tick.¬† I want to know what your favorite song means to you and what your wildest fantasy is.¬† I don’t like to brush the surface.¬† I tend to get too deep, too fast.¬†

So, I’m an extroverted-loner because I come off too strong. But I need to be around people. I’ve gotten so used to being alone because I feel like no one understands me and how my brain works.

Some night I sit up thinking and wishing my brain worked differently but then I realize, I really don’t. It can be complicated but I like how I am. I enjoy being intense, sometimes.

I go hard with everything. Not just conversations. I believe my dogs understands me and how I feel. I believe everything happens for a reason and that there is such thing as putting things into the universe. I believe Your Angels protect you and give you signs when need be. I don’t believe in coincidence or luck; that (very) hard work pays off and you should never stop until you are where you want to be. I always want more.

When I first started my job at the bank, I was told I needed to make a certain quota on referrals each month. I was like “WHAT?!” How am I going to do that ? I don’t know¬†how¬†to have small talk.¬† Besides that, I don’t like small talk. I remember the first time I got coached. The gentleman that was mentoring me at the time came up to me and said to point out something about each customer that you like and build upon that. The first time, I pointed out an elderly mans watch and we had a whole conversation about watches. I felt fulfilled after the conversation but I wanted more. From that day on, I made it a point to have¬†small talk¬†with each client I came in contact with. Once I got comfortable, it started developing into deeper conversations. Conversations about family, divorce, vacations, children, death, etc.¬† Then I got promoted.¬† I was now in a position to speak to people on a deeper level. Now, it was my¬†job to dig deeper.¬† When it’s your job to do something, it feels more natural.¬† My clients didn’t look at me like I had 5 heads when we talked about their special needs trust account. They knew me on a personal level and they knew I was a trained professional.

When you bring this out into the real world, especially in this day, it doesn’t work that easily.¬† I feel like if you ask someone a personal question or try to have a deep meaningful conversation, they get nervous and try to hide. You can have your opinion on why this happens, but I put most of the blame on the media and social media. The media because Hollywood has given so many people unnecessary anxiety and insecurity and social media because it’s formed an outlet for people to not have a face to face conversation. Social media sites and online dating have made it so easy to hide behind a screen or a phone.¬† I’m guilty of this at times.¬† It’s a security blanket.¬† You don’t have to worry about a¬†in person reaction. You don’t have to see the look on the person’s face or hear the tone in their voice.¬† You can ask or say anything you want and not get any¬†real¬†reaction afterward.

I can honestly say, I used to be like that. I used to be that person to brush the surface with people and not want to build a relationship. I would run after “How was your day?” Too clingy. BYE! It scared me to get too close to someone and be vulnerable.¬† I’ve learned that relationships, in any form, are the key to love. Not just romantic love, but friendships and family love.

Now, it can’t happen fast enough. I want a deep connection more than ever.¬† There is too much good in life to not share it with someone else.¬† For me, this is a blessing and a curse.¬† Blessing because anyone that builds any type of relationship with me, will know that the truth will always be told and I will always always always have something to say.¬† And I’ll always have an opinion.¬† A curse because I tend to cause myself unnecessary anxiety and push people away.¬† Since I don’t like small talk, I feel uncomfortable doing it. Sine I feel uncomfortable doing it, I don’t do it. Since I don’t do it, people think I’m weird and dont talk. Truth is, I’m the total opposite. I could talk for days. But not about the weather or what movies are out.¬† I talk about hidden meanings and what my favorite smell reminds me of. I’m not ashamed of my past, so I talk about it.¬† I’m sure being on a first date with someone, you wouldn’t want to hear about the relationship someone has with their child’s other parent or about a life changing mistake¬† incident that happened years ago.

I’m trying to be patient. I’m holding off for the right people to enter my life, or maybe they are already here and I don’t realize it yet.

Like I said, life is too short to not share it with someone. Don’t be afraid to be you and dig deeper. What’s the worst that can happen?

I’ve been opening up a lot more to people closest to me ( or at least I’ve been trying .) I’ve realized that everyone that is here now, won’t be here forever. I need to make sure I make the best out of each relationship I have and give everyone in my life as much love as I possibly can.

Some people are content with skimming through life and not having a deep foundation with people. Not me. I want more. I need more. And I plan to take each relationship to the next level. So, if you know me personally, buckle up!!

Happy Friday Eve, my loves !

‚̧ԳŹ‚̧ԳŹ‚̧ԳŹSamantha

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Don’t Let The World Get You.

A few days ago I posted a quote on my InstaBlog ( ReachForTheStars902 ) The quote was “Caring about everyone doesn’t require everyone to care back. Just keep doing you and spread love unconditionally.” This can mean SO many different things.

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When I stumbled upon this quote on google images, it really hit me hard. If you know me personally, you’d know that I tend to be a lover ( unless you really piss me off ) I’d rather cheer on a stranger, than hate on someone that did me dirty. That’s just how I roll. I try to see the good in everything, over the bad. Even if things are really¬†bad.¬† I get twisted up and upset over the smallest things and I love with all my heart.¬† I rather see the positive over the negative. Sometimes, I let the negativity get to me and I’m sure you do, too. It can be discouraging, at times.¬† When you try and try to make a change, you try to spread the love, try to encourage others – but you get nothing but a blank stare in return. Or even better, worse than a blank stare – you get some serious shade.¬† It’s like a giant rain cloud came and shit on your parade.¬† You know you let it affect you. Don’t lie. Just a little bit ? I’ll be the first to admit that other people’s mood affects me, BIG TIME. Especially if I’m making an obvious effort.

Realistic Samantha¬† – “How do you spread the love when the rest of the world is miserable ?”

Unrealistic Samantha¬† – “Simple. Be you.”

Realistic Samantha –¬† “Okay, Samantha.. For once, please be realistic. Its not “simple.”

Unrealistic Samantha – “Ok, you’re right. After I just had the conversation in my head, I realized that it’s not simple. It takes time and a lot of patience. An extreme amount of trial and error. It takes a lot of deleting toxic people from your life and surrounding yourself with only people who lift you up and are on the same level as you.”

What do I mean by “on the same level as you?” That’s a great question. I’ve been saying this quite frequently.¬† Honestly, ever since I left Christina’s father, I’ve been using this term. “On my level.” I don’t mean this is an egotistical way, by any means. I actually mean this in the total opposite way. I mean it in a way of self love and self awareness.¬† When I started saying it after I left him, I simply meant¬†I wasn’t going to settle for someone who didn’t have the same beliefs and morals as me. I wasn’t going to subject myself to the negativity and poor behavior.¬†¬†I wasn’t going to let this person, or any other negative person influence me and risk my happiness. I was JUST starting my journey, on the road to success and I wasn’t letting anyone get in the way. Not even someone as important as my daughters father. Before we split up, I woke up depressed almost everyday.¬† I didn’t feel like I had a home for me and my daughter.¬† It was not a life I wanted for us to live.¬† I let the actions of other people take over my life.¬† I let it control me and consume every ounce of me to the point I didn’t have a brain that was controlled by¬†Samantha¬†anymore. I felt like I was in a video game.¬† My brain was controlled by other people, not only Christina’s dad.¬† Letting go of the toxicity was the best thing I could have done for not only me, but the most important person in my life… Christina.

The rest was history.¬† If I didn’t leave, I would have been miserable and depressed. I wouldn’t be the mother and woman I am today.

On my level. This term is not used by me for any reason other than mental health and maturity.¬† At some point, I did a total life flip and priority switch.¬† I guess you can say it happened when I had Christina. But I didn’t do most of my growing until I was about a year into my career.¬† It took a lot of uncomfortable situations and doing things I normally wouldn’t do with people I wouldn’t normally do things with.¬† A lot of blood, sweat and tears. But I can honestly say, I wouldn’t change it for the world. I wouldn’t be who I am today and wouldn’t be growing the way I am, without this process.¬† You need to trust the process and just go with it.

So,¬† how does all of this tie into the purpose of this post? Well, in sharing my personal experience, you can see how certain people’s mood and behavior can deflect you from being… YOU. I wanted my true colors to shine through, especially once I became a mother. I wanted my love to spread to others and make a difference in people’s lives.¬† How can I do this when I hit a huge roadblock ? Which way do I turn when it feels like either way is a dead end ? Well, you pick the opposite road of what you are traveling down now and build more road after the dead end.¬† Keep going.¬† If someone or something is holding you back from being you, why do you continue to entertain it ? We were not put on this earth to live for other people’s happiness. Maybe to some extent we were, but not to the point of losing ourselves or not letting our true colors shine through.

True colors. Ha! Trolls. Who loves this movie? “So don’t be afraid to let them show, your true colors, true colors are beautiful.” If you want to be happy at 7AM on a Monday, don’t let the gump in the office tell you to be anything other than happy. If you want to love every person you come in contact with and get to know people for who they really are, don’t let shallow, miserable people get in the way of that.

Just be you. Don’t let society’s views of perfection change you. If you love unconditionally, it will eventually stick.¬† Someone will catch on along the way and start to spread it themselves.¬† And so on.¬† Hopefully, someday this will cause a big love train movement and we will all be happy and love each other. Big dreams, huh ? I think it can happen.¬† ALWAYS dream big.

nutella

With that being said, I’m going to drift off into dream land.

‚ô•‚ô•‚ô•Samantha

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What Is Getting In Your Way ?

So, We’re two weeks into the New Year. How we feeling ? Have you changed your goals yet ? Have you attempted to make a plan to accomplish your goals for the year or the month?

Sometimes, it’s easier to talk the talk, rather than walk the walk.¬† What is it that gets in our way of getting up and MOVING ?

**Rant**

I know for me, I’m just lazy. Sometimes, I get into this funk that makes me avoid anything productive. In fact, it does the total opposite. It takes me 5 steps back, when I get lazy. At some point in the laziness, I forget what I’m working toward. Like this blog for instance! I set a goal for myself to post once a week until I really get accustomed to the life style and then increase my posts accordingly. I posted 1 post so far and we’re going into week 3 already. Granted, sometimes I get a writers block and don’t know how to put my feelings into words. Baby steps. In order for me to post once a week, I need to put my feelings into some sort of writing daily and then put it all together at the end of the week. Having a daily theme would help but sometimes I’m so scatter brained, I don’t know which way is up.

** Rant Over.**

Now, enough about me. Let’s talk about you. What is getting in your way? I want you to take some time. Write down exactly what you want to accomplish by the end of February ( since January is almost over ) Like I said in my last post, putting in it writing will help you keep it in the front of your mind. So, put it in writing and then write down what you are going to do to get there. Bullet point is my favorite way to do this. Then write down your obstacles. Basically, What’s getting in your way. Put some real effort into this because this will be the determining factor weather you move past it or not. Some common obstacles are :

  • Finances
  • Insecurity
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Fear of change
  • No support
  • Too much influence in the opposite direction
  • Time management

And so on…

Once you’ve determined WHAT is in your way, we need to figure out how to eliminate that factor or make it more subtle. You can get help figuring out how to eliminate these obstacles but only you can really tell how to do it because you are the only one that’s going to work toward it.

You may need to make your network smaller for a bit, you may need to make it bigger. You might need to cut back on extra spending or start making lists to prioritize. There are a TON of websites and applications to help you accomplish your goals and be more productive, so you can’t use the excuse of having no resources.

No matter what you do or how you do it. Make it your own and get started today. Don’t wait until Monday or next month. If you’re not ready now, you’ll never be ready.

‚̧ԳŹ‚̧ԳŹ‚̧ԳŹ Happy Sunday !! Samantha